Alexis Bellardino
PHHS ‘16 Montclair State University ‘20
Interested in Greek life, but don’t know if it’s for you? Joining Delta Phi Epsilon as a sophomore in college was one of the best decisions I made. This organization allowed me to grow into the woman I am today and provided me with some of my favorite college memories. As a recent alumna of this Panhellenic organization I wish I knew some of these things…
1. There’s a financial commitment: Sorority dues can range from a few hundred to a few thousand dollars per semester. Between dues and specific clothes for events, being in a sorority adds up. Before joining make sure you have the financial means to do so. (Tip: Some sororities offer payment plans for dues and other expenses- this is a great question to ask the members.)
2. It’s a major time commitment: You will have to attend weekly chapter meetings, events, and complete philanthropic hours. Adjusting to this new schedule will take time, organization, and dedication. Make sure you are willing to put in these extra hours while maintaining that GPA!
3. Choose your chapter wisely: It's important during the recruitment process to give every organization a chance. Maintaining an open mind will allow you to find the place you fit in. Even if you think you know which one is the perfect fit, a chapter might just surprise you. Don’t judge a chapter based on what other people think, at the end of the day this becomes your 2nd home and only YOU need to feel comfortable.
4. You get out what you put in: Some women in my organization threw their entire hearts into our org. while others hardly showed up to chapter. You truly get out of an organization what you put into it. If you know you won’t have the time to attend all the events a sorority entails, I would seriously consider this decision.
5. Every chapter at every school is different: If you think you know which chapter you want to join because your best friend or family member at another school is in it, listen up. Every chapter at every school will differ because they have different sisters. Rely less on reputation! Instead, get to know these individual sisters and see if it’s a place you will truly feel at home.
6. “Trust the Process”: You will hear this over and over if you go out for recruitment and it’s true! If you are genuine with the sisters during the recruitment process (rush) you will end up where you belong!
7. Philanthropies can change your life: My favorite part of my organization was the philanthropies it supports. Throughout these past 4 years, I was able to raise money, serve, and learn about the way I could help others. I also got to meet individuals directly affected by the organization I raise money for. There is no greater feeling than helping those in need!
8. Parties are part of the deal, but they are NOT everything: Yes, you are guaranteed to find lots of parties when you become a sister, but this should not be the only reason you are joining. Consider what is important to you before you rush and pay attention to that when you pick an organization!
9. Going “Greek” is a great way to network: When you join Greek life your network automatically grows. First, you are able to connect with your new sisters and then with the entire Greek community. Wearing your letters automatically becomes a conversation starter. You can reach out to these individuals, not only through your educational journey, but beyond. Once you graduate, your chapter's newsletter will be a good source of job openings, and your sisters will be happy to make referrals/recommendations!
10. You’ll meet phenomenal women: Sisterhood is not always easy; just like siblings you will have arguments and disagree! With this being said, some of my best friends in college are my sorority sisters. Through this organization I have met some of the most hardworking, loyal, educated, and empowering women!
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